Yes, People Will Probably Criticize You!

Earlier today, I had one of my Podcasting A to Z students tell me that she now has cold feet about publishing her first podcast episode.

She's spent the past two weeks tweaking her equipment setup and figuring out the audio editing process. She's produced a sample audio file that I gave a “PERFECT” rating. (And most of you know just how much of an audio snob I am.)

During the first week, I asked her why she wanted to launch her podcast. She wrote… “My life’s mission, and the purpose of my podcast, is to share my experience, strength, and hope around recovery from compulsive spending, to help others who feel powerless over the obsession to buy, shop, and spend…

However, today, while other students are submitting their first episodes to iTunes, she wrote to me saying… “So I'm having an identity crisis, Cliff….. I'm not sure I should be doing this particular podcast now. I know you cannot make the decision, but I'd like your feedback about my concerns.

She went on to write about about how a few of her friends in recovery have cautioned her about some of the things that she was considering with her platform.

She then wrote… “I'm worried that people will get upset with me for sharing my experience, strength, and hope this way.

And she told me that she had an idea for a different podcast that she might pursue instead.

This interaction inspired today's vlog post!

BTW. After giving this student my feedback, she wrote back with the following….

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Cliff, I cannot thank you enough for this amazing motivational response. I will be using it in the podcast, if you don't mind. Your transformation is astounding. I read the FB post and comments, and was so struck by this exchange you had with someone:

THEY SAID: I know you won't call out the hater who mocked you, but I hope he sees this and the profound support you so deservedly have received. Well done! Keep up the good work!

And YOU SAID: Yeah, funny thing is that guy made it into the most recent Keynote that I did. I used it as an example of how you can't allow others, who don't understand your vision, keep you from moving toward your goal as a result of their negative feedback.

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Wow.

Moving forward. Thanks to you.

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Creating The Content That You Feel Called To Create

I recently came across one of quote on the internet that says… “Some people will only love you as long as you fit into their box.  Don't be afraid to disappoint.

Focus On The Positive Concept

As a content creator, you simply cannot expect to make everyone happy. I have come to the place where I believe it is detrimental to your brand, and your overall health, to even attempt to make everyone happy.

Recently, in episode 379 of my Podcast Answer Man podcast, I opened the show by letting my audience know that this episode was going to be out of the norm, that I would be spending the entire episode sharing some thoughts that I had about the direction that I may be heading with my personal brand. I shared some pretty aspirational visions that I had about what that future might look like.

The feel that this was a perfect episode for Podcast Answer Man as my target audience is made up of people who are building personal brands and businesses around those brands.

I felt that it was good to share my journey of how I’d achieved far greater success than I have ever anticipated with Podcast Answer Man and the vision I have for future that may contain success far greater than I could even imagine at this point. I had stated I have a sense that if I knew where I was going to be in ten years from now, I’d be scared to death, because it’s so far beyond what my current confidence level would allow me to pursue.

I also shared that the majority of the impact that I have, in the future, may be completely unrelated to my consulting and coaching work in the area of podcasting.

I received a lot of very positive feedback as the result of this episode via email, face to face conversations at a recent conference, etc. The overwhelming majority of the feedback could be summed up with what Kathleen Thompson shared as a comment on the show notes posted to my website for this episode.

  • I listened to your podcast while cooking dinner. It's amazing to me that someone like you who has already accomplished so much is thinking so many of the same thoughts, with big, scary, and fuzzy dreams for your future. When we say we want to change the world, we really do have to be prepared for it to be a much larger piece of the world than we currently influence. And that is downright scary. I think you have the potential to reach many more people than you currently reach. As I think it was Todd who stated, your heart, accessibility, and passion for helping others is what draws us to you. Where you'll go – who knows? So I suggest you keep you mind, heart, eyes, and imagination open. Can't wait to see what the future will look like in the life of Cliff Ravenscraft! All the best – Kathleen Thompson

Of course, I love it when I get feedback that supports what I’ve been feeling in my heart, when the feedback seems to confirm my thoughts about the direction that I’m heading.

However, it never fails. I could have over one hundred people tell me how much they love something that I’ve recently done or said, and if I get one person who posts something negative or critical, it can cause me to take pause and question my own motives. This happened when Rob Flores posted the following one line comment on that episode.

  • Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which people have an excessive sense of self‑importance. Lay off the Kool Aid – Rob Flores

Here’s the deal, when I hit the record button, I wondered if people would think that I seem arrogant by sharing these thoughts of such a lofty vision of the future. However, there was absolutely no question in my heart as to whether or not I should share what was on my heart at that time.

The next week, I recorded episode 380 of the show and titled it “Are Podcasters Narcissists?” Again, I felt that this content would be a great topic for those who are building a personal brand. Too many of us already struggle with questions like “Who am I, to say that I’m an expert?”

During the episode, I went through a personal evaluation of each of the symptoms listed for someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I shared my authentic and transparent thoughts on how I felt I ranked with each of those symptoms. At the end of the episode, I suggested I feel that most podcasters need to be more bold and do more things that may seem narcissistic to many. Overall, I felt very good about that episode.

Once again, I got a lot of overwhelmingly positive feedback about this episode. Here are just a few things that people said about this episode…

  • Hi Cliff, as a new podcaster I REALLY enjoyed this episode. Your authenticity and honesty in sharing who you are and your wisdom on how to deal with that kind of feedback. Thank you for encouraging us to share our message without making excuses or feeling like we have a narcissistic disorder 🙂 Besides. its your show, why can´t you talk about what you want? I am a new listener to you on podcasting tips, but this was just as helpful. Thank you from a new regular subscriber. God bless you. – The Goals Coach
  • I loved the discourse on narcissistic personality disorder and you addressed the Rob Flores comment in exactly the right way. Two words came to mind as I listened to you: authentic and human. Authentic for not straying from who you are, and recognizing there are traits in your personality that could lead to issues if they were expressed in excess, which they are not. Humanness (is that a word?) for sharing feelings that we all experience – occasional jealousy and envy, and an enjoyment of praise. To me, and to many of your listeners I am sure, your openness is refreshing and honest. – Heather Bayer

Not only did I feel confident in episode 380, I had more than than 50 people who went out of their way to tell me that the most recent episodes of Podcast Answer Man have been the most meaningful to them in their journey of building their platform.

However, yesterday I received my weekly email digest of all new written reviews posted to my iTunes listing for the Podcast Answer Man podcast. There was one written review with a two out of five star rating under the name “Dr. Arcane” posted on November 18, 2014. The written review says…

  • I just spent more than an hour listening to Cliff explain how he’s not a narcissist. He admits, he doesn’t want to talk about podcasting any more, he just likes to hear himself talk. Every once in a while, he’ll actually have an episode that focuses on the technology or procedures of podcasting, but more and more, he just focuses on motivational self-help-feel-good stuff. The good episodes are getting further and further apart. I know what podcasting is. I know what they are good for. I’m sold on that already. Quit talking about why podcasting is wonderful and talk about something USEFUL!

I will tell you that after eight years of podcasting, this type of feedback still packs a hefty sting. However, I’m happy to report that I was able to read this, ponder what was being said, and then make a decision of whether or not I agreed with this feedback. Thankfully, I had the overwhelming, positive, feedback from others that have confirmed the direction that I’m heading with my show.

By the way, I’ve never stated that I don’t want to talk about podcasting any more. I’ve simply stated that I no longer want the focus of the Podcast Answer Man podcast to be only be on the technical procedures of how to set up a podcast. My target audience, for Podcast Answer Man, is made up of those who already have a podcast and who are looking for education, encouragement and inspiration that will help them take their message, their business and their life to the next level.

For those who are looking for the technical procedures of how to podcast, they only need look at my website to see where I’ve devoted thousands of hours to making all that content available.

I see where Dr Arcane and others are coming from. I understand the appeal for folks to have a podcast that does nothing more than focus on technical procedures that have to do with audio equipment, RSS feed configurations, product reviews, etc. However, that simply is not the type of show that I have in my heart to create. I’ll never be able to make these people happy and as a result, I must remind myself that many of these people are going to post negative feedback in iTunes, in my show notes and in my email inbox.

What I’ve learned, that works best, is to keep a record of most of the positive and encouraging feedback that you receive. Keep creating the type of content that you have in your heart to share and that is confirmed by the feedback of people who tell you that this is the type of content that is making a positive difference in their lives.

Don’t get me wrong, I believe there is a great deal of value that can be gained from negative and critical feedback. My show has certainly improved over the years as a result of some painful and honest feedback. Even some of the most scathing and hurtful words have helped me see where I’d lost my focus in the past.

Yet, when it comes to the recurring theme of negative feedback from those who simply disagree with the type of content that I feel called, deep in my heart, to share, I simply choose to focus on the positive feedback.

In fact, this entire post was inspired both another piece of written feedback regarding the past two podcast episodes that I’ve mentioned above.

(BEGIN QUOTED FEEDBACK)

Cliff,
I really appreciate these past few episodes. (I appreciate them ALL, but I'm also very thankful for the topics you've shared recently.) You shared some very inspiring updates on your personal journey, and what you feel you might be building towards. Your words didn't sink in right away when I was listening to your episode yesterday, but for some reason, today while I was working around the house, some of your words jumped back into my thoughts. For example, you mentioned (I think in last week's episode) that you could foresee yourself speaking to a very large group, perhaps in a venue the size of a stadium. To be absolutely honest with you Cliff, I don't doubt that at all. There's something about you that is much larger than simply being Podcast Answer Man (not that I'm saying that's simple – don't get me wrong!) Also, I don't typically listen to PABL, but I'm so intrigued by what you mentioned in episode 381, that I'm going to download it right away!

You occasionally bring up faith in some of your episodes, and I've been more attuned to that in the recent couple of months. I was raised in the Roman Catholic faith, but I do not feel I have practiced my faith wholeheartedly in more many, many years. My wife and I were married in the Catholic Church just over 5 years ago, and we occasionally attend mass, but we both come up excuses that make us feel like it's ok for us to stay at home on Sundays. Truthfully, I feel a bit lost in my role in my faith. I've never really known how to talk to God. I just try to be a “good person” and love/serve others, but when it comes to practicing faith, I just feel like I'm “going through the motions”. This is something that I've felt some guilt for many years, but never knew quite what to do about it.

I'm really not sure where I'm going with this, but I felt compelled to reach out and tell you that I resonate with your intuition, that in your lifetime, God truly does have much larger plans for you. I do believe your recent successes, as deserved as you are of them, are simply God's plan in action to set your environment and lifestyle to exactly where you need to be to pursue the next level. (Ok, those words fit a little too well together!)

I'm so grateful to be a follower of yours, to listen to your show week after week, and to be an alumni of yours. Your journey is amazing and inspiring beyond words, and you inspire me to want to be a better Christian.

Thanks Cliff!

Darcy Sabatino

(END QUOTED FEEDBACK)

This feedback confirms that I’m creating the content that is according to my mission and purpose in the world.

Whatever you do, create the content that is in your heart.

370 – Four Strategies For Changing The World With Your Podcasting Efforts – How you can make a powerful, positive, difference in the lives of those who listen to your show.

My Closing Keynote for Podcast Movement 2014 (00:06:25)
In this episode of Podcast Answer Man, I share the audio recording of the closing keynote address that I gave to those who attended the Podcast Movement conference on Sunday, August 16th and 17th, 2014 in Dallas, Texas.

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Podcast Movement 2014 | Closing Keynote
(cc) 2014 giovanni gallucci, LiveLoudTexas.com

In my talk, I explained that if you have a clear message that people can grasp on to, if you genuinely care about other people, if you are intentional about creating environments of community and you are willing to just be yourself, you will have a powerful and positive impact in the lives of those who listen to your show. (Photo Credit: giovanni gallucci)

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349 Dealing With Negative Feedback – How To Come Back From A Podfade – DropCam Pro Review

Thoughts on Negative FeedbackDealing With Negative Feedback
It's been a long time since I last covered the topic of dealing with negative feedback. Earlier this week, I was listening to the Jillian Michaels Show and she had an episode titled Haters Are Gonna Hate.

In this episode, I shared about seven and a half minutes from Jillian's show and gave a few of my thoughts on the importance of discerning the difference between when someone has a legitimate criticism of your podcast and whether or not the person is simply projecting their own issues and problems on to you. (This topic starts at 00:48:47)

I've actually talked about dealing with negative feedback with much greater detail in episode 106 of Podcast Answer Man. If this is a topic of interest to you, I highly encourage you to check out that episode.

While I have received my share of extremely negative and hurtful criticism over the past several years, I don't usually share it in Podcast Answer Man. However, I did make an exception for episode 198 of Podcast Answer Man. If you want to hear a hater hating on me, I encourage you to check out that episode.

 
 
How Do I Recover From A Podfading Experience?
Jonathan Gaby recently sent me an email saying, “I started a podcast several months ago and have succumbed to the dreaded pod-fade. Ugh, I know right? How embarrassing and humiliating. So, how does one gracefully and with mucho class recover and restart the podcast?”

In this episode, I talk about what podfading is and I give several thoughts to consider when deciding how to move forward after you have abandoned your podcast audience. (00:08:22)

 
 
dcamMy Review of The Dropcam Pro
For the past several weeks, I'd been looking out for a new gadget to geek out on. I had always been interested in the Dropcam Pro wifi enabled cameras.

I recently decided to purchase a Dropcam Pro and I love it! In this episode, I share my thoughts on the this camera and the overall Dropcam experience. (00:32:43)

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198 Am I Just An Egomaniac? My True Motives For Podcasting Exposed!

This episode is very different from my normal format for Podcast Answer Man. I was not very happy how the last thirty minutes of last week’s episode went. It turns out that I was not the only one who was unhappy with that portion of the episode.

It’s ironic in response to John Wilkerson’s question last week about how to entice your audience to provide audio for your show, I had shared that one of the ways was to “provoke your audience.” Last week’s episode did provoke at least one listener to respond. Fred from Texas called in with what I consider to the third most overly critical pieces of negative feedback that I have received since I’ve been podcasting.

I debated not sharing this feedback because of many of the inaccurate assertions about who I am as a person and the inappropriate name calling that was persistent throughout the call. However, because this audio feedback was actually left and intended to be played in the podcast episode, I went ahead and shared the voice feedback, in it’s entirety.

I didn’t share this in the episode. But one reason I chose to include the feedback in the show was because among the other overly critical, negative pieces of audio feedback that I’ve received, this is the only one that was actually provided for and meant to be played in the show itself. I hope that this does not scare people away from the prospect of podcasting and opening up a voice mail feedback hotline. However, I did want to share this as an example of just how negative and critical some people can be about what you might say in your show. And trust me, I’ve had worse than this.

I haven’t listened to this episode is a long time. However, this may be a good time to encourage you to listen to Episode 106 of Podcast Answer Man where I share some practical insights on how to deal with negative, critical feedback when you get it.

One thing I’ve learned about this type of feedback. Even if the feedback is shared without grace, compassion, and outside of any relationship with that person at all, there may still be a great deal of truth to the criticism that is being made. I certainly agree that there is “some truth” to the negative feedback provided by Fred. However, I knew that before I posted last week’s episode online. Of course I explain, in detail, why I put the full episode out as I did without editing out the last 30 minutes.

While I completely disagree with the assertion that I’m an “egomaniac,” I realize that if one person came away from episode 197 feeling so strongly, that it may be possible that some other folks might have received the wrong impression about who I am and what my motives are in the world of podcasting.

I’m VERY HAPPY to share, in this episode, the talk that my wife and I gave on Dan Miller’s No More Mondays Cruise, where we share a great deal of detail about our personal story. It shares who we are, our lives before podcasting, how we got involved in podcasting, how podcasting became my full-time career, and our heart and motivation for podcasting.

As I said, this episode is very different from the normal weekly format of questions and answers. Also, this episode is the second episode in a row that exceeds one hour in length, which a personal pet peeve of mine in the world of podcasting.

I ask each of you to forgive me for my outburst last week and for creating two incredibly long episodes back to back. With that said, I REALLY hope you enjoy the talk that Stephanie and I did and that it will be a source of inspiration.

PODCAST CONSULTING: I'm available for one on one podcast consulting and coaching. Whether you want someone to get everything set up for you or you just need a little help along the way, I'd love to work with you. I'm able to demonstrate using screen sharing technology during our call which makes it just like I was there sitting next to you at the computer. If you are interested, email me at [email protected] or call me at 859-757-1399.

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